Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Calling All Girls!

"This is the norm." These 4 words from a video I watched yesterday (thanks to Brooke) on what guys think about modesty stuck out to me. It was in reference to how we girls dress provocatively without realizing the effect it has on guys. Should this be the norm? And whose liability is it that we amuse ourselves with a culture-polluted standard that is not only immoral, but also unbiblical and catapulting many others into sin? In 1 Timothy chapter 2, Paul teaches us that we as women should adorn ourselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control (verse 9). He says that we should not dress to show off our wealth or to be seductive. We should dress in a way that is that is proper for women who profess godliness (verse 10).

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up..."
1 Thessalonians 5:11

It forces us girls to answer the question: Are we creating a monster by going beyond the limits of modesty and crafting an intangible minefield forcing guys to tiptoe carefully through life battling against sin and temptation due to our inapt displays of wardrobe?

It’s easy to throw this issue off on guys. They’re the ones who have the wild and lustful brains anyways, right? (Not right. God made them that way, but for a reason. It’s our sinful nature that taints the arrangement He caringly formed, by the way). We are naively, or rather apathetically, waging war against our brothers. We think it’s their problem and not ours. But it is our problem, so what if we changed the game?

“…whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
1 Corinthians 10:31
Let’s put the ball in our court and keep it there. By taking responsibility, let us not freely give guys any reason to foul out of this corrupt game of lust. It’s important to note that what’s “in style” should not dictate our fashion choices should it cause us to not bring glory to God with our bodies. Our bodies, as we learn in 1 Corinthians 6 (verse 19), are a temple. While modesty is undeniably both a mental and physical issue, it begins with what we place on our bodies and how we opt to display ourselves to others. When we choose to follow Jesus, we should choose to make wise decisions regarding how we dress and the clothing that we purchase. Immodest clothing styles wouldn’t be popular sellers if we didn’t put them there with our money and our purchases. We should not dress in a way that might suggest to others that we aren’t making a conscious effort to glorify God in all that we do – including the way we dress.

So many times we try to win guys over with looks and appearance. We believe the lie that if we show a little more here and a little more there that the odds will be in our favor. We try to lure others in with physical and lustful attraction rather than by retaining biblical principle and gaining respect. That’s not where happiness and true love comes from, and that’s not how God designed it to be. If we can’t respect ourselves, how can we expect guys to respect us and our bodies?
“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”
Hebrews 4:16
It’s not impossible to look chic while still honoring God. This argument is not against fashion or style, only against immodesty. It’s up to us to rise up and make a difference. We can change the course of this by tackling the issue head-on and making mindful decisions to honor both our God and our brothers. They will appreciate us and respect us more for doing them a favor which could potentially impact their eternal lives. If they don’t extend appreciation or respect, then you don’t need them pray. Pray for them to recognize and apply the biblical principles that are surrounding this issue. Let’s also pray for each other that God may equip and empower us to fight back against immodesty and the sin and temptation that it entangles. We can do this. Let’s proudly wear and endorse the image that pleases and glorifies our Lord.
"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30

1 comment

  1. Morgan, congratulations on this endeavor! I pray nothing but goodness for you and all who come here.

    Being older, I'm not particularly attentive to the styles of younger people. But often I see beautiful young women who appear to have gone out of their way to solicit the attentions of young men. It saddens me to think that these girls don't have enough self-confidence to know that their appeal runs deeper--much deeper--than how they dress. And I wonder if their strategy doesn't backfire more often than it works. The scanty outfits I see lead me to think those who wear them are desperate and unsure of themselves, neither of which is an attractive quality. But that just may be me being older...

    You are a good friend to young women everywhere to challenge them on this. The world has more than enough Kardashian and Taylor Swift imitators. What we need is more beauty that reflects inner virtues and strengths, not desperation to be loved and looked at.

    Keep up the fine work!!



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