Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Why It’s Okay to Be Alone

We don't think it's okay to be alone.  Being alone has a stigma.  Nobody wants to "be alone."  I have learned that being alone is one of the greatest things.  There are no distractions, and there is nothing to compete for my attention or draw my focus away from what I'm trying to accomplish at the given moment.  Being someone who has never really given being alone a chance, I never thought I would be the one to say this, but…being alone is such a blessing.

I'm not really talking about singleness, but for the record I will throw this in...I wholeheartedly believe that you have to be okay alone before you can be okay together with someone else.  If you can’t know yourself, enjoy yourself, and love yourself…then you can’t really expect someone else to do the same.  Singleness is one way to go, but it's not the only or always right way to go.  There's just a time for everything.
Anyways...I’m also someone who doesn’t like to sit still.  I love to stay busy on the go and pack my schedule as much as I can.  The more activities, events, and outings, the better.  I’m finally teaching myself to slow down.  It’s a learning curve, and sometimes I have to tell myself to just chill out.  But here's the important thing...time with myself helps me to become more self-aware.  Even more than that, it helps me to become more God-aware.  I spend more time with Him and in His Word.

Less me, more Him. Win-win.
I really do believe that it’s okay to be alone, and I think we all should be alone sometimes.  I think that it's important for multiple reasons across different areas of life.  The most important area of life with regards to anything is your relationship with Christ, so I wanted to see what relevance being alone had to this most important area.  I don’t really know what I was expecting to find, but what I came across surprised me.  So with all emphasis being mine, here's my five best reasons why it’s okay to be alone:
mARK 1_35-4And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone
mARK 1_35-5And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.
mARK 1_35-6And after he had taken leave of them, he went up on the mountain to pray.
mARK 1_35-7And when it was day, he departed and went into a desolate place
mARK 1_35-8But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray.

This is by no means an exhaustive list of reasons and examples, but I quickly got the point.  I know that it's okay to slow down, withdraw, and be alone because Jesus was alone.  Jesus wanted to be aloneIt’s when He prayed most intimately with His Father.  He did pray corporately in front of others.  He also publicly taught all believers how to pray (see Matthew 6:5-15).  But it was this alone time he desired and sought out whenever possible.  In today's terms, we might would call it his "quiet time."  And I can’t help but think…if Jesus wanted it, shouldn’t I want it too?  If it was more than good enough for Him, then I can’t be above it.  I need to want it for myself just like He did.  If I would just learn to be alone and empty myself, then I am more ready and available to be filled with Him.  This is why it’s okay to be alone.
Being alone isn't really all that bad.

Being alone enlivens intimate prayer.

Being alone affords us valuable time that is scarce in our fast world.
Being alone allows us time to spend with Jesus.

Being alone is okay.

But when you pray go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. Matthew 6:6

1 comment

  1. Thank you for that reminder. It really puts it in perspective:)


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