Monday, February 2, 2015

One Year No Dating Challenge: Mission Accomplished

Last week I told you that soon you would be hearing from one of my friends about her challenge. As of last week, she finished her one year. She has definitely inspired me, and I am so proud of her! I am sure that what Presley has to say will encourage you as much as it did me. Here is what she has to say from her perspective being on the other end of the challenge looking back: 

To put into words what God has shown me during my “One Year No Dating Challenge” is nearly impossible. When I started this journey, if you would have told me that I would be where I am today, I would have thought there would have been no way. First of all, I want you all to know that this was a choice for me. No one made me do this. It was a choice that I had to make for myself because I had gotten to the point in my life that I was so sick of myself and my selfish, manipulative ways. God finally broke me and I cried out for help. I had finally gotten to the place where instead of asking God for the things I thought I wanted at the time, I was asking for God to show me what I needed to change in my life. Seeking God and His Word changed my life. Praying through SCRIPTURE brings God’s will and His kingdom down on earth as we pray. God tells us to pray like this: Your kingdom come, your will be done (Matthew 6:10).

The first thing that God opened my eyes to see through this journey was that this life I live is not mine. This life that I live is God’s, and I am merely just a vessel for Him to use for his glory alone. Once I understood this small, yet huge concept my eyes and heart were opened. I finally understood what I had been missing. God had to wreck my world and drag me through trials to get me to this point in my life where I would finally understand why I was really here on this earth. That reason is to simply glorify Him. And let me just throw in here that God doesn’t need us. He doesn’t need us to help Him. I quickly realized what a privilege I have in participating in building God’s kingdom.

Another thing that God showed me through this journey was that I did not need a relationship to find my happiness. In the past, I have always looked to relationships to fill that void in my life. You always hear people say, “God is the only one that can bring you happiness.” It was not until this journey that this statement finally became real for me. I realized that every relationship that I will ever be a part of will fail me somehow, but God never will. God showed me that until I could be happy and love myself single, I would never be equipped for a relationship.

Trusting God was and is still something that I have had to do during this whole journey. It can be extremely scary giving your life to God and saying, “Okay God, you bring me the man that you want me to be with.” The obvious thoughts that run through my head are, “Well what if he’s not good looking,” or “What if I don’t even like him?” That’s where our trust and our faith kick in and this is where I had to push all that away and just say, “God whatever your will for my life is, show me and guide me.” God showed me that as I’m waiting, I am to be growing closer and closer to Him. I am to be working on my character and my flaws just like I would want my future husband to be doing for me. Andy Stanley raised the question in his series that stated: “Why not become the person you’re looking for?” This question hit me so hard because I was so ashamed of the way that I had been living. I was the last person that I would want to be looking for so to speak. Become the person that you are looking for. 

I promise you that if you decide to accept this challenge and if you are at a point in your life like I was, you will not regret it. It has literally been the best year of my life hands down. Has it been easy? No. It has been very lonely at times and I wanted to just throw the towel and quit multiple times. I promise will not regret it. God will show you things and open your eyes and heart to things you never thought possible. When your faith intersects with God’s faithfulness, your spiritual life becomes alive. Something happens in you. Your life will change and you will know your Heavenly Father on a personal and intimate level. Obedience leads to faithfulness. At the end of this journey, you will be a better version of you!

Let me just end by saying that our God is faithful. My God who I serve is faithful. You can put your trust in Him and trust that He will not fail you. I find it so cool that the God of this universe cares so deeply about our desires. Here I am, Presley Pittman, January 27th, 2015, I completed my “One Year No Dating Challenge.” If it weren’t for God’s faithfulness and His truth in His Word, I could not have accomplished this goal. And never forget: God is faithful. 

Luke 1:45 has been my motivational verse through this journey: “And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.”

I also want to leave you with a challenge: Don't settle for less than God's best. I was so willing in my relationships to lower my standards just to please others. Stand strong and do NOT lower your standards for any guy or girl. Do not be willing to compromise who you are and what you believe for the approval of people. Galatians 1:10 says, "For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." God has someone godly for each and every one of you. It is better to be single your whole life than to settle for someone that God did not bring you! 
“For I am doing a work in your days that you would not believe if told.”
Habakkuk 1:5

Presley Pittman is a college student majoring in Elementary Education. She has a gift for serving others and aspires to be a missionary. This month, she will be returning to Honduras where she will be working with Forgotten Children Ministries. Be in prayer for her as she travels to impact God's kingdom globally!

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